How to use Siri to manage Contacts

Discover how you can manage your contacts with Siri. Learn how to assign relationships to your family, friends, and even your boss.

Siri User Guide
Siri User Guide

Contacts isn’t a sexy app, but there’s no doubt it’s deeply embedded in the Apple ecosystem. With it, we can make calls, send emails and messages, and get travel directions by saying a person’s name when making a request to Siri.

How to find contact information with Siri

Activate Siri on an iPhone by using one of these options:

  1. Say “Hey Siri” followed by your request.
  2. Press and hold the Side button (iPhone X and newer) or Home button (iPhone 8 and older) on your iPhone.

(If this doesn't work, learn how to set up Siri on an iPhone).

When searching for details of a contact stored in your address book, just say their name.

Hey Siri, show Jane Smith

If the person exists, a popup will appear containing their information; tap on the popup to open their details in the Contacts app.

Show Contact

If there are multiple people with the same name, Siri will ask you to choose the correct one from a list.

It's also easy to get specific information about a contact.

Hey Siri, when is Jane Smith's birthday?
Hey Siri, what is Jane Smith's address?

How to add relationships to contacts in Siri

You can ask Siri to add 'relationships' to your family, friends, and even your boss.

When a relationship is designated, you can use natural language to get in touch with the person via email, messages, and calls.

For example:

Hey Siri, text my husband I'll be home in 30 minutes
Hey Siri, send an email to my boss

Assigning relationships

The first thing you need to do is teach Siri who your husband, wife, best friend, or boss are before it can assign them to a contact.

  • Activate Siri by either pressing the side/home button or saying, "Hey Siri."
  • State the name of your contact followed by the relationship, such as "John Smith is my brother." Make sure you say the name exactly as it is in your contacts.
  • When Siri asks you to confirm the name, say "Yes" or press the Yes button on the screen.
Hey Siri, John Smith is my brother
Hey Siri, Jane Smith is my aunt
Siri Add Relationships

You may find you have relationships that conflict, such as having two brothers. In this case, you can differentiate them by using a variation on the relationship, such as 'older brother' and 'younger brother'.

If you haven't set assigned a relationship to a contact and you make a request involving one, such as:

Hey Siri, call Dad

Siri will ask for your father's name and then if you want to remember that person as your father.

Say yes. From then on, Siri will know who your father is.

You can also add relationships the 'traditional' way by editing your contacts on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.

  • Go to your own contact card on your device.
  • Tap on Add Related Name, which is about halfway down the contact card.

Assigning more than one relationship to a contact

You can attach multiple relationships to the same contact. Just follow the steps described above again, and Siri will ask you if you want to confirm the other relationship.

Deleting relationships

To remove a relationship, delete it directly from the contact's card in the Contacts app.

Giving contacts a nickname

If you have people in your contacts list with the same name or have names pronounced similarly, you can take advantage of Nicknames to tell them apart. We're written a complete guide on using Nicknames in Contacts.

Want to discover more about using Siri, Apple’s popular virtual assistant? We’ve written a helpful collection of tutorials full of techniques for using apps, dictation, using Siri Shortcuts, and a comprehensive beginner’s guide to activating and using Siri.